Showing posts with label body policing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label body policing. Show all posts

Friday, 14 February 2014

"totally asymmetrical breasts..."

"I wanted to respond to those ads which I see in newspaper to have them toned through
some sort of balm or massage.  However, later I found that all those creams are nothing
but hoax. 

I am also not looking forward to my potential knight in shining armour to go all derogatory about
my ill-aligned boobs.

Few months back I discussed it with mom and she went furious and rejected the idea for
have reconstructive surgery out rightly. 

Having said that, I am dispatching few of my yucky knocker’s clicks."




Dear Submitter, 
I appreciate your strength in sending a submission that clearly has caused you a lot of sadness and insecurity. But to be honest with you, I had to look at your pictures for quite a while to look for the 'imperfections' you were referring to... and still... I can't see any issues. 

I hope that you have been following this project and have seen that breasts come in all shapes and sizes. Not everyones nipples look the same...and thats ok! I can't see any real asymmetry at all, lots of women's nipples point outwards... some point upwards, some point downwards...and some point forward...that's just how it is - variety, it strengthens the gene pool! 

I am so deeply saddened to hear that you were taunted about your breasts by a 'close friend'...there is absolutely no reason that someone should comment on others breast shape or size, its very personal and highly sensitive...that was a very unkind thing to do. That may have contributed to why you view your breasts in such a negative light. There is NOTHING wrong with them at all.

Also, I'm glad you saw past those ads in the paper, these things are never credible. Don't consult anyone other than a licensed doctor in regard to matters about your body and health. 

In my view, it's bizarre that you went as far as thinking about 'reconstructive surgery' - what on earth for?!! what would you 'reconstruct' ? 

Please don't live in fear of what will happen when you expose your breasts to a man. Straight men are usually very happy to see a pair of nekkid boobs. They have other thoughts in their mind once those are out...trust me, no one will be sitting around analyzing the exact proportions and symmetry of your breasts. Plus I don't think anyone's are perfectly symmetrical. 

Do not refer to them as 'yucky knockers' again! They are perfectly lovely. 

Hope everyone has had a fine anti-mullah valentines day! (In actuality I despise the day myself, but I'm on board if it pisses the extremists off).

So I drew a little somethin' 
















Friday, 10 January 2014

A woman's place is in the home...


So in previous posts, we've been speaking a bit about how women in our country often police each other for the smallest things... like a bra strap showing, or heaven forbid if someone were to make out the shape of your nipples through your clothing.

We still haven't moved much beyond the 1950's in Pakistan, and sometimes I question if we've even reached the 1900s at all.

With joint families still in existence, we have the perfect environment for woman-on-woman policing. That's right the notorious 'mother-in'law' ---- who knows why so many of them insist on living up to that stereotype.

The situation this submitter describes is sadly not an uncommon one at all, in our part of the world. I have personally seen several mothers-in-law trying to dictate what their daughters-in-law should wear, etc. And similarly the new recruit/maid daughter-in-law is expected to take over the 'womanly' duties.... namely, anything to do with the household/kitchen. Just as her mother-in-law before her... and hers before her. Its so common, that we don't even bat an eyelid... or think for a moment how damaging it is to a persons self worth to be told what to wear and what their respective duties are.

Its Twenty Fourteen for fucks sake. Women, can we at least count on each other to be less misogynistic from now on?

And on that note, as always, please keep those submissions comin' - it's time to expose this bullshit for what it is. Send to:

nicemangosDOTblogATgmailDOTcom